3 Reasons To Complain

If you are reading this article, you probably have a lot to complain about. You are a small business owner and you are not making as much money as you would like. Or one of your clients is asking for way more than you bargained for. Or your child got sick, making a deadline next to impossible for you to accomplish. These things suck, I know, they happen to me all the time.

I have been noticing a trend, however, amongst people I know. It is a phrase that burns when it hits my ears. “I have no right to complain.”

The reasons people say this range from being financially sound to having good health. I have heard a mother say this about her child, and a man say this about his country. They are talking to themselves, trying to convince themselves that in the grand scheme of things they don’t have it so bad.

And they are right, things may not be so bad, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t complain. “The squeaky wheel gets the grease” is another saying. It is the saying I like better. Here are the reasons I feel keeping quiet when things are tough is a mistake:

  1. Complaining could be all you needed to feel better. I will often sit with my husband at night after the kids go to bed and talk about our days. Sometimes it is funny stories, sometimes it is annoying customers. When we are done, we feel heard and validated. Nothing changed other than getting the bad stuff out of our system.
  2. Complaining can be a bonding experience. One of the great things about the Entrepreneurial Think Tank for Women is our meetings where we share our celebrations as well as our challenges. That is a nice way of saying we get a chance to let off steam. We talk about how we have dealt with similar situations and connect on a deeper level. No one is dismissive and are more then happy to help with solutions.
  3. Complaining to the right person could make change happen. It could be as simple as getting your order wrong in a restaurant, if you wanted the chicken but got the fish, you would say something, right? Tell your waiter and you get what you wanted. You don’t need to be rude, just ask for what you need. Of course this is a lot harder in personal situations but the same rule applies.

So I want to hear, what do you have to complain about?

ETTM Think Tank with Marcy Cortez of LAI Financial Group, LLC

After working in corporate accounting for more than 25 years, Marcy Cortez decided it was time to devote her knowledge and talents to her own business. Marcy is a certified Quickbooks specialist with extensive Accounting, Management and Human Resources experience. LAI Financial Group LLC grew out of her need to share her financial and business savvy with the public. A local entrepreneurial business owner can relate to your needs and requirements as a fellow member of the community.
Marcy will be speaking about the advantages of outsourcing services, specifically financial services for the small business entrepreneur and the role outsourcing plays in helping the entrepreneur to reduce their overhead, increase profits and improve cash flow.

Join ETTM & Marcy on March 7th. Please RSVP HERE.

Workshop & Think Tank With Jalanda James

On April 9th, 2013 at The Goddard School of Marlboro, 15 School Rd. E, expert NYC videographer Jalanda James discussed the importance of video as a powerful marketing tool for business.

Do you have Squirrel syndrome?

Just like our dogs are, we an be easily distracted by squirrels. We refer to those properly as distractions.

Most successful business women have A type personalities. That is great news because we are go getters, always on the move and we can take on a lot of tasks.

The bad news is we are easily distracted by things that happen around us in our business, at home, and with our families.

Did you ever find yourself sitting with a colleague and the most pressing topic you were on when you began your conversation, was 4 topics ago?… and the discussion you started, was still not resolved? Then yes… you are afflicted with squirrel syndrome!

Now that we identified your affliction what do you do?

When you sit down and list your goals at the beginning of the month, and then the end of the month rolls around… are you often not accomplishing them? Do you miss them by a landslide or nose? I bet if you thought about it, it would be in direct proportion with the things you let distract you.

So now that we have a diagnosis, and we know what it is causing, what is the antidote?

Simple: it’s change.

Sounds easy enough right? Actually, no…change is not easy and it does not come easily to many of us. But,  if you become aware that your distractions are in direct proportion to the goals you miss, wouldn’t you want to change?

All it takes to change is to refuel the passion you have for what you do. Become aware of wanting to accomplish your goals; your commitment and practice will help this change be a natural part of your daily routine. And then your success will be in direct proportion to the amount of energy you put into your comittment to change!

Our deepest desire is to succeed isnt it? Then change will be worth it!

Do you suffer from Squirrel syndrome? What do you do to treat it? Please let me know in the comment section below!

Life…Simplified?

We have all been there…a 60 hour work week, a jam packed schedule, busy, busy, busy…

We are working, parenting, living our lives…and needing {wanting} just a few more hours in the day to get everything done. 

Reality check: It is impossible to do it all on your own (but I’m sure you already knew that).
 
So how can you simplify your life? {Ahem…no magic tricks here}
 
She created this business for people like us, because she was like us.
We have action-packed lives and mile long to do list. But we value our free time and believe that an extra set of hands, can go a long way.
 
I have several businesses, 2 kids, a husband and a home to take care of.
Her commitment to supporting me in my everyday whirlwind has given me the ability to focus on the things that really need my attention. Asking for help has dramatically improved my well being: my stress levels are down, I’ve increased my productivity and freed up time to do more of the things I enjoy therefore… I’ve simplified my life.
 
Hand over your tasks – go off and enjoy your day. It’s that easy!
 
Life, simplified? Now that’s possible!
Meet Shakima and learn more about her services at our Family Wellness & Beauty Day.
Join us HERE!

Meet Dr. Stephen Murphy

Dr Murphy grew up in Manalapan, NJ and went on to graduate from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst with a BS in Biology. After school, he moved to New York City where he briefly entertained his entrepreneurial musings when he helped launch a health conscious wireless company. While in Manhattan Dr Murphy was suffering from severe migraine headaches, but after undergoing Chiropractic Care at Be Well Chiropractic his migraines disappeared.  Shortly after the 911 tragedy, Dr Murphy decided that Chiropractic was the next career choice to pursue in order to help other individuals achieve health without the use of drugs or surgery, sometimes there can be bad cosmetic surgery and you don’r want your face to get ruined like that.  Dr Murphy moved to Dallas, Texas where he attended Parker College of Chiropractic. After graduating he worked in a successful Chiropractic clinic in Austin, Texas. Dr Murphy now practices in Freehold, NJ serving the healthcare needs of the Freehold, Manalapan, Englishtown, Howell, Jackson, Marlboro and surrounding communities.

“I am here to help and serve you! If you need a doctor who will listen to your concerns and treat you the way you deserve to be treated so that you can return to a healthy pain free lifestyle, then do not hesitate to call 732-908-0440 to schedule an appointment. I look forward to meeting and helping you. ” – Dr. Murphy

Dr. murphy will be giving complimentary check ups at our Family Wellness & Beauty Day.

Register by clicking HERE!

ETTM Supporter: Meet Jennifer Tuma-Young

Jennifer Tuma-Young is a Lifestyle Expert, Licensed Coach, Writer, Founder & CEO of INSPIRISTA lifestyle design company*, Founder & Editor of LifeGloss…sparkle for the soul

She is a woman who has gained weight, lost weight, had her heart broken, lost loved ones, struggled to make ends meet, had thriving businesses, fell in love with her best friend, and enjoys every fun-filled teary-eyed moment of being a mother to her precious gifts from God, Millana Elle and Ewing James.

She is all about empowering women, and bringing out their inner whimsy by cultivating their creativity and imagination.
Her life’s mission is to help all women rediscover who they were each born to be, find balance, embrace our unique imperfections, connect with each other, overcome fear, believe in miracles, dream big, use our unique gifts to serve the world, love each other flaws and all, live without judgment, have faith as the anchor, and (of course) smile a lot along the way!!
Jennifer Tuma Young will be giving 2 workshops at our “Family Wellness & Beauty Day”. Register HERE to join her.

BULLYING: An ETTMom Shares Her Story

Nothing bring us more satisfaction than giving our members lessons and tools to support their journey in life and business.

Our blogging workshop motivated several of our members to get going on building their online presence. Several have shared their success stories, like One Green Shoe on the Patch; but we bring light to this story in particular from one of our members as we raise awareness on the topic of bullying which she chooses as the first post for her blog.

  • Bullying – The Visible vs the Invisible
I wanted to share how “bullying” can be hidden by our children.
It doesn’t mean you are a bad parent, it just means that you may have taught your child coping skills to help them deal with bullying from school mates. Bear with me as I share some background information..

As a single mom for 14 years who worked full-time trying to provide all of the things that I had when I was growing up and more for my daughter, Belinda. Isn’t that every parent’s wish – to give their child more?  I moved to a double wide trailer in a trailer park in an area that had a good school district, lots of children my daughter’s age and it was affordable.  

My daughter was involved in a lot of activities outside of school – first competitive gymnastics, then field hockey then all-star cheering. This was my way of making sure Belinda stayed away from the “wrong crowd”. She went to public school until she was a Sophomore in HS when she asked to be changed to a private Christian school where our Pastor’s family taught and went to school. Her reasons made sense so we juggled the budget and Belinda graduated from Pilgrim Academy – smiling, happy, ready for college & still living in the trailer park. Belinda traveled 13 hours to go college – Western Carolina University. I was heart-broken that she was so far away but after the first semester, she excelled – graduated with honors in the Honors College program.

Here is when the “clueless mom” found out what had really been happening…My daughter is a social worker that loves working with troubled kids. As she was preparing her applications for grad school for her Masters in Macro-Social Work, she had to write some essays as to why she felt she would belonged in this field. Since I am a grant-writer, she asked me to review her essays (like she usually did) to check grammar, etc.

This is when I found out the “horror” of my daughter’s school years….

Belinda recounts many tales of verbal abuse from school mates because we lived in a trailer park that as the years passed became like the “projects” of the Township. She only invited her closest friends back to our house for sleep overs, parties, etc. I never really thought about it since I was working, juggling her activities and making sure that her homework was done. The truth was, very few parents wanted their children to come over because of where we lived – not necessarily our home but the neighborhood. Belinda talks about how people used to call her “trailer trash”. The outside sports activities along with my example of what a strong woman could do is what she attributes to her success. Some called her a “snob” because she was involved in outside sports.  Then when she became active in church, more verbal abuse came.  Some of her friends from the trailer park fell into the lives that people expected – sexually active, lots of unsupervised parties, drugs, alcohol and more. I was blessed, Belinda didn’t do any of that. 

Many believe that if I was clueless about the verbal abuse, I would be clueless about everything else…My daughter and I had and still have an amazing relationship.

When I asked her why she never told me, her response “I didn’t want to hurt you because I knew you were doing the best you could. The material things didn’t matter because you were always there for me”. My daughter has amazing attributes – self confidence, speaks her mind (sometimes without tack) and is forever looking to help the underserved youth in her community.  She tells me on a regular basis how she hopes to accomplish all that I have both professionally and personally. 

I wanted to share this to let people know that bullying isn’t always visible, it can happen to any child.

As I travel back to our old hometown, I look around and ask my husband – was I that “clueless” about what life was like. His response is always the same – “You did what you had to do to make sure that Belinda had everything she needed even if it wasn’t always what she wanted. As a result, she is a bright, intelligent & confident woman who wants to take on the world to make it a better place”.

Since signing up to be a part of the Family Wellness & Beauty Day for Kickin’ It Kids AntiBullying, God has pressed on my heart to share this story. This is an amazing cause and I truly believe that children who are visibly and “in’visibly” bullied can benefit from this type of program.

Thank you Hope for sharing your story. We applaud your courage.

The Right Hand Mom: Cristie Ritz-King

Cristie  Ritz-King, The Right Hand Mom, works with busy people who want to eat well and live well so they can enjoy the incredible lives they are creating.

Everyone wants to be healthy and it’s not as unattainable as people think. There is no one right answer, but there is an answer for everyone; Cristie is passionate about helping people find it. She helps men and women lose weight, feed their families well and make sustainable changes that help them live the life of their dreams.

The Right Hand Mom, will be giving 2 workshops at our “Family Wellness & Beauty Day”. Register HERE to join her.

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