Pick Your Battles

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I wanted to share this with you today from the book “Team Work Makes The Dream,” work by John Maxwell.

I keep it by my couch where I sit early in the morning and later in the evening. I go back to it often and read a chapter or two at least once a week.

I think this is so crucial to understand what John wrote about team work and picking your battles for all the entrepreneur’s reading this right now. It truly takes a village, a team around you to make it happen. Individuals who you can collaborate with, like minded people who show you support, and people who can help your vision become a reality.

John Maxwell said “Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is a process, working together is a success.”

  1. Winning is often the battle and there are times in the life of every team player when he or she needs to fight. But if you fight all the time, you can wear yourself out. That’s why it is important to pick your battles.
  2. To gain a better perspective of when to fight back and when to sacrifice yourself, practice the following disciplines.
  3. Spend Time with People Who Are Different from You – That helps you to appreciate and understand how others think and work. You will be less likely to judge others.
  4. In Matters of Personal Preference or Taste, Give In – Keep the main things the main thing. If you don’t save yourself for what really matters, you’ll wear yourself out.
  5. Don’t Take Things Personally – Always remember, hurting people hurt people. They are also easily hurt by others.
  6. Practice 101 Percent Principal – Whenever possible, find the 1 percent you do agree on in a difficult  situation, and give 100 percent of your effort.
  7. Be a Servant Leader – If your mindset is to serve rather than be served, you will likely encounter less conflict.

 

Remember, “Together We Can Do The Impossible.”

 

Contact Lynette Barbieri For any questions or comments or just to say hi!

 

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Our Choices Determine Our Direction

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I was talking to a good friend about life and choices yesterday. Sometimes you need that kind of a conversation to get clarity on your situation and sometimes adjust your sails and correct the direction your life is headed. There is no mistake that our lives are a product of choices we have made over time. The challenge is that because these choices we make on a daily basis don’t affect our lives immediately, we don’t give it much thought.

The reality is it is those little choices we make every single day along the way that impact our lives the most. I admit I have certainly made poor choices in my lifetime. I still do. When I started to really think about it, I thought about why I made those choices? When we make choices are they for us or are we making them based on what we think we should do? Did we make them because we were afraid of what people would think? Or did we make those choices because at the time we though we had to?

Before you can start to make better choices you have to realize that our choices are entirely our own. We all live with the consequences of our choices. To be happy and move on we can’t regret those choices and we can’t go back to change them. What we can do is learn from those choices and make better ones moving forward. The good news is, it is not where you came from that is important, it is where you are going!

We can all make the choice to change our lives any time we want to. It doesn’t matter if we are younger or older believe it or not.  It was hard for me to swallow that too.

If you are having a difficult time making a difficult choice consult with a friend who understands and might have experienced something similar. Start trusting your instincts a little more often. If it feels bad, like you shouldn’t do it, then don’t! I personally struggle with that daily.

Here are some things to consider:

  1. Accept your situation, but change your outlook.
  2. Accept what happened, but change your path.
  3. Accept the choices you’ve made, make better choices moving forward.
  4. Accept people that have hurt you,  but change the people you hang around with.
  5. Accept and love yourself, but never stop learning or changing.

Some circumstances and choices we could never change, but always remember you can always change what you can simply no longer accept. Sometimes all it takes is a little help from your friends!

Contact Lynette Barbieri with any questions or comments or just to say hi!

 

 

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Learn to Collaborate for Better Business Results

Whatever your product or service is your business is driven by referrals. So often I watch people network and try to get an appointment with another business owner to share information about their business and all I hear is “I”, “Me”, “I need”. There is no I in TEAM guys.

People want to hear about what’s in it for them. What they’re thinking when you are talking to them is that it all sounds great but, “what’s in it for me?”

I am approached countless times a week to come to a meeting, a party or have coffee to hear about what the other person wants me to know about their business. I can count on one hand how many times I am asked to meet to see how we can help one another’s business. I am a firm believer that giving should always come first. However, there comes a point where you have to take a stand and say if you want my help and my time I’d like you to hear about what I do to see if there is some way we may be able to work together.

Successful entrepreneurs understand that networking is a two way street. It is never all about you. You must always be on the lookout for opportunities that may help your connections. Always! Basically, by giving business to other individuals in business, you will ultimately get business back. Does that make sense? This may sound trivial but this is a huge reason people give up. They run out of appointments and people to talk to because they always ask and rarely give. What someone else has to offer is as important to them to share with you as your business is to share with them.

Collaborating with other like minded business owners is crucial in order for your business to prosper. Collaboration is the sharing of a mission, vision, resources, and goals. It is voluntary, based upon one or more common goals, values, needs, or interests. It is two or more people working on a common goal and purpose that will  benefit one another. Working together can lead to competition channeled in the right situation can help individuals to stretch themselves and excel.

Please contact me with any questions or leave me a comment below!

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Let’s Embrace 2016

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It’s that time of year again! As I sat quietly this morning in my sun room sipping my coffee I was vividly remembering my sweet grandmother saying to me when I was a little girl that the new year came faster and faster every year as you get older. I never understood that then. I know now that most of us feel the same way. I feel like I was just cleaning and packing all my holiday decorations and before I knew it I was taking them right out again!

I know everyone is talking about resolutions, goals, vision boards etc. and I know we all need to do all those things. I just wanted to talk about personal reflection right now. The end of the year is a natural pause point to think about the prior year and to visualize the new one. It is the time of year that we reflect and reminisce. In one of the training classes I ran this week I talked to my guys about just focusing on a few things right now. We have to ask ourselves some questions because those questions are a catalyst for digging deeper into our personal reflection.

Successes large and small over the last year should be recognized. Any progress is an accomplishment. We need to think about things that didn’t go as expected just as much. If we didn’t make any mistakes we would never learn the lessons we have learned.

These were the only questions I asked and told them to really think about and then write it down:

  1. What was the absolute best thing that happened to you this year?
  2. What was the most disappointing thing that happened to you this year?
  3. What was the biggest waster of time for you last year?
  4. What is the “most” important thing you want to accomplish in 2016?

I think you can get so much out asking yourself these few simple questions. It makes you think about where you have been and what you have accomplished. It also makes you face your failures so you can focus on what lessons you have learned from them and what you will change this year to get a different result.

The “New Year” is a  time for new beginnings and new endeavors. Last year was just a stepping stone to this one.

Have a prosperous, healthy, productive, peaceful, energetic and super happy new year!

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Meet ETTWomen Member and Author of Inside Outer Beauty, Dixie Lincoln-Nichols

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You know how Lynette and I always talk about The Power of Connections? A tweet, that’s right..a tweet nearly 5 years ago connected me to this fabulous woman whom today I am proud to call a colleague, supporter and most importantly, a friend. Lynette and I are also proud to call her an ETTWomen!

Dixie Lincoln- Nichols is a former science educator (14 years of Biological science education), a wife, mother, author, lifestyle & women’s wellness connoisseur, the founder of Dixie Bits Bath and Body products.

Just like birthing a child, birthing a book comes with a lot of self-doubt, fear and the occasional morning sickness but once it is done…the exhilarating feeling of accomplishment -specially when your ulterior motive is to serve others.

We spent a powerful weekend with Dixie where we received our signed copy of her latest baby: Inside Outer Beauty – Thriving for Healthy and Beautiful Skin Through the Ages.

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“We all want to put our healthiest skin forward, for it is the first thing the world sees. But genetics and the environment can sometimes thwart those well intended plans. For some, great looking skin is inherent. For others it is a task. And still for others it is a down right battle to find the best anti aging cream” Dixie explains.

I have personally battled with difficult skin since I was 13 years old and Inside Outer Beauty examines the principle that healthy and gorgeous skin is a result of well rounded care. This includes a clean diet rich in nutrient-dense foods, a consistent and appropriate skin care regimen, radical self care, and heightened mindfulness and spirituality.

Whether you have normal skin or oily skin, teen skin or mature skin, you’ll find applicable and actionable solutions for your specific skin type, that will help guide you on your journey toward obtaining and maintaining healthy, glowing skin.

Inside Outer Beauty  is available in:

Hardcover at  Barnes & Nobles, Amazon,

Ebook/Ereaders: Kobo.comBarnes & NoblesAmazon

After this journey Dixie adds,”Today I want to encourage you to believe your intentions. Write them down. Tell someone. Put them in the universe. Pray about them, and watch them come to pass.”

I can personally relate to what this path looks like, encourage you to do the same and to enhance your life by delving into Inside Outer Beauty today!

 

Do you have a question? PLEASE, let’s connect HERE or leave me a comment below!

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