ETTWomen CJ: Get Uncomfortable and Overcome Superwoman Syndrome with Gerry Viggiani


Today’s woman is expected to do it all but is that really effective when you’re so stressed you feel like you’re on a hamster wheel and you can’t get off? It is not just about you doing too many things or striving to do everything really well; it is about sacrificing your well-being by putting others expectations/wants/judgments before your needs. We will look at how to ask for what you want and need, how to balance demands of others and your priorities, and how to set your objective in interacting with others in a way that will feel empowering and effective.

Gerry Viggiani as co-owner and psychotherapist at Lotus Blossom Psychotherapy will help you uncover your true potential. Their philosophy towards psychotherapy is one of mindfulness and living life in this moment, free from the barriers of regrets and worries. They will work together with you to help you to develop effective coping skills, reprocess and desensitize traumatic memories and unearth long-standing behavior patterns or negative perceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing a more fulfilling and meaningful life. 

This may feel like a big step towards “getting uncomfortable” but it is one that you will not regret. Gerry walk that journey with her clients every step of the way! She treats age 18 and up with individual and group therapies. She foundationally trained in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and certified in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and advanced experience with Trauma and Compassion Models. Treatments that can help you to learn more appropriate and masterful ways to cope with PTSD, addiction and other ineffective behaviors, post-partum issues, depression, anxiety, poor self-esteem/self-compassion, relationship issues and emotion regulation problems.

Join us on March 13th for a powerful talk!

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Before 2017, Ask Yourself These 10 Questions

I think we can all agree that this year raced through, right? At the end of every year, I take a minute to stop and reflect on what I have accomplished for myself, my family and my business. Do you?

I do this because I promised myself many years ago that I would live life fully.

I would say yes to the things that would serve me, my family and my community. In order to know this, you have get clear and write some things down.

If you haven’t taken a minute to decompress about this year, here’s a start. Here are 10 questions you may want to ask yourself:

  1. Am I happy with where I am at with my life right now?
  2. What am I passionate about? What am I doing to pursue my passion?
  3. Who and what things are weighing me down that I need to get rid of? How will I do it?
  4. What do I need to forgive myself for?
  5. When did I feel most alive this year?
  6. What was sacred about that moment?
  7. What do I want to let go of?
  8. What do I want to dedicate 2017 to?
  9. What did I learn about myself in 2016?
  10. What did 2016 represent to me in my path?

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I wish you and your loved ones a very happy and healthy New Year! And as always, let’s roll 2017!


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4 Tried & True Tips for Taking Control of Your Finances

How many people feel like money disappears at the end of each month? Sometimes life gets in the way and there is just too much month at the end of your money. In my career I have met many people who have said they would like to take control over their money, but never know how to get started. I always recommend to play on offence, if you have an idea but have no money take a look at what loans you can get and start with your idea. They are afraid to take the time to get the ball rolling.

I know that the main reason this happens is because getting ready to handle finances and start saving money for retirement can be intimidating. But if you follow the greentouch online advances steps, I’m sharing here then I am certain that once you take the time to begin the process you will get it done in time!

Here are 4 foolproof tips that will hopefully make it easier for you to get started:

  1. Create a budget. The fact is that not everyone can stick to a budget. Many wind up spending more than they originally intended so they get discouraged and give up. Start off by simply cutting down on your spending a little at a time. Pack your lunch, make your coffee with the best espresso machine under 100, buy more generic brands at the supermarket. You will soon start to see results and feel better about saving more money.
  2. Become money savvy. Start to read about personal finance. Commit to picking one topic regarding personal finance at a time and try to read about that topic for 30 minutes a week.
  3. Start paying yourself first. Setting money aside for your savings comes before even paying your bills. When you squeeze that extra money out of the budget you must set aside money for yourself automatically. If you cut out buying coffee, (which, say, costs $2 a day), at the end of the year you will have $730 saved in your emergency account, or you could make coffee at home so you could find out what are the benefits of caffeine creams, that are good for skin and hair, of course you can also visit Texas hair places to get treatments who are affordable, since you’ll know all sometimes is necessary, and also save money. Not bad!
  4. Talk to a financial professional. We all need to talk to an expert on something once in awhile. You need someone with financial experience to give you an objective, unbiased opinion.

Before you play any game you need to know the rules. It’s the same with saving your money. Once you know the rules of the financial game and follow them you are on your way to taking control of your financial house. Start slow and be consistent. The key is to make sure you stick to the plan! When you see how simple it is you will never be intimidated by money again!

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10 Ways People Get in Their Own Way

Have you read Falling Forward by John Maxwell? It’s a great read!

I compiled this post several years ago, after reading the book and it continues to be one of my favorites whenever I find myself ‘lost’ in my business goals.

I hope it does the same for you! Here are 10 ways people get in their own way:


1) Poor People skills.   I was talking to someone the other day and she was complaining about not winning a contract,  “It wasn’t fair… all the people knew each other and we didn’t have a chance.  It’s all politics.”

But what she went on to describe wasn’t politics. It was lack of relationships!

Most careers involve other people.   You can have great academic intelligence and still lack social intelligence—the ability to be a good listener, to be sensitive toward others, to give and take criticism well.

If people don’t like you, they may help you fail… On the other hand, you can get away with serious mistakes if you are socially intelligent…a mistake may actually further your career if your boss/client thinks you handled the situation in a mature and responsible way.


2) A Negative Attitude. Your reaction to the circumstances of your life has everything to do with your well-being and your success.    If your circumstances constantly get you down, then maybe its time for a change—not in your situation, but in your attitude.    If you can learn to make the best of any situation, you can remove a formidable obstacle that stands between you and your dreams, you have to remember that you have to be open to receive those things you desire in life.


3) “A Bad Fit”. After we check our attitude, we should examine IF a change in situation is in order.  IF you learn to make the best of any situation, you can remove a formidable obstacle that stands between you and your dreams.   Does anything need change today?    If so, what?    Does anything need to be “tolerated” and “accepted today” that can’t be changed—then accept it!    Few things in life are more frustrating than being stuck in a profession that doesn’t serve you. It’s like wearing shoes that are 2 sizes too large or small.


4) Lack of Focus. Bad things happen when a person doesn’t focus. One day a business man visited a small florist shop to order flowers for a friend opening a new business. The shop owner was unusually busy and scrambling to fill orders while she took the businessman’s information.   Later that day, the man arrived at his friend’s grand opening and saw a big floral wreath with his name written on it that said, ‘With Deepest Sympathy During This Time of Sorrow’    The businessman was irate.   He called the florist to complain and asked “What in the world happened?  Do you have any idea how stupid you make me look?”  “I’m so sorry,” the shop owner said, “I was a little scrambled when you came by.  Your situation wasn’t nearly as bad as it was at the Perth funeral care. That card said, “Best Wishes in Your New Location.”

Anybody can make an honest mistake when things are hectic.   But people lacking focus have trouble not because they’re too busy, but because their priorities are not straight.  And that wastes their time and resources.  If you go from task to task to task without making any progress or you can’t seem to reach a goal no matter how much effort you give it, examine your focus. No one can move forward without it.

People lacking focus have trouble not because they’re too busy, but because their priorities are not straight.



5) A Weak Commitment. For a long time, it seemed that apathy was chic. Guess what? Effort and commitment are back in style.


Until one is committed, there is hesitance, the chance to draw back and always ineffectiveness.   The moment one definitely commits oneself,  a whole stream of events issue from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would come his way.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


The last time you failed, did you stop trying because you failed, or did you fail because you stopped trying? What was your level of commitment? Did you give the task everything you had? Did you go the extra mile?  You put enough of yourself on the line to guarantee that you would give your very best.

If you’re committed, a failure doesn’t mean that you’ll never succeed.  It just means you will take longer.

Commitment makes you capable of failing forward, UNTIL you reach your goals.


6) An Unwillingness to Change. Perhaps the most relentless enemy of achievement, personal growth and success is inflexibility.


Some people seem to be so in love with the past they can’t deal with the present.


Albert Gray says, “The common denominator of success lies in forming the habit of doing things that failures don’t like to do.”

If you continually give in to your moods or impulses, then you need to change your approach to doing things.   The best methods is to set standards for yourself that require accountability (hint, hint: ETTWomen) and suffering a consequence for not following through, helps you stay on track.

Once you have your new standards, work according TO THEM -NOT YOUR MOODS.


7) A Shortcut Mind Set. A common obstacle to success is cutting corners and taking a short road to success.  It never pays off.

As Napoleon said, “Victory belongs to the most persevering”. Most people underestimate the time it takes to achieve something of value, not just to be successful, but be willing to pay your dues.

James Watt spent 20 years laboring to perfect his steam engine.   William Henry labored night and day for 8 years to prove how blood circulated in the human bodies.  It took another 25 years for the medical profession to acknowledge he was right!

Cutting corners is a sign of impatience and poor discipline. If you’re willing to follow through, you can achieve a breakthrough. Self-discipline is a quality won through practice. Mancusi noted, “Truly successful people have learned to do what does not come naturally!”

Real success lies in experiencing fear -or a version of it- and ACTING IN SPITE OF IT!”


8) Relying on Talent Alone. Talent is overrated.  It has value, but it isn’t enough to take a person through the multiple failures that life brings. Adding a strong work ethic to talent is like pouring gasoline on a fire—it’s explosive! Those who rely upon talent alone without developing further, peak quickly and soon fade to obscurity. The greater your talent, the more likely you are to lean heavily on it and skip the hard day-to-day work of improving it. If you possess this negative tendency, put yourself on a growth plan to make the most of your God-given talent.


9) A Response to Poor Information. Don’t make weighty decisions based on limited amounts of information. Gain reliable information!

General Douglas MacArthur wrote, “Expect only 5 percent of an intelligence report to be accurate.  The trick of a good commander is to isolate the 5%”    Does this go along with the truth, “Don’t take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with?” Be careful where you get your advice and information! At this pace of life and business increases, the difficulty of being able to collect and evaluate information will increase.


10) No goals! The last major cause of failure is an absence of goals.

Don Marquis perceives “Ours is a world of people who don’t know what they want.” Joe Griffith believes, “A goal is nothing more than a dream with a time limit. Many people don’t have goals because they don’t allow themselves to dream. Without a dream, there is no desire!   Without desire, there is nothing to describe you!

If you can discover the weakness that weakens you, you can start doing something about it, and that can change your life!

If it helps, talk to a trusted friend who can help you, join a support group. Put yourself on a growth plan to turn the weaknesses into a strengths!

10 Productivity Tips to Help You Stay on Track this Summer

Kids are out of school and naturally we are feeling the burn -and it’s not just from the sun.

Work days are shorter, I get it…but, you can’t wait until September to get your business back on track.

The challenge I hear from many women is with staying focused and prioritizing.

Here’s the Truth: Whether you’re on vacay or not…A key differentiator between people who succeed in their business and those who do not is personal productivity. Leaders and entrepreneurs who are consistently making things happen know how to achieve what they want in less time than others. Highly successful entrepreneurs do these things every day.

I wanted to share these with you so you can keep them top of mind.

There’s a lot to be learned from the tactics of successful, and incredibly busy, individuals on how to better organize our own days. Here are 10 things you can start doing today:

  1. Pick 1 task to focus on. One thing many successful entrepreneurs have in common is the ability to focus on what matters most. Pick one thing and do that one thing.

  2. Block out distractions. Period. Martina Navratilova says, “I concentrate on concentrating.” If you don’t have the willpower to be self-accountable, try Rescue Time. It is an application that runs in the background of your computer and measures how you spend your time so you can make better decisions.

  3. Set a strict time limit on meetings. In general, people don’t need as much time as they ask for. Meetings can be time vampires. So, be cut-throat when it comes to managing your time so you can focus on high value tasks.

  4. Set up productivity rituals. Many of  you know I swear by waking up earlier than most consider normal. You also know that because of this, there are tasks that are done by 6am. Therefore, setting up rituals that automate behaviors, make us more productive – without depleting our energy reservoir. 4am may not be your cup of tea, but force yourself to prioritize so that you know that you will finish at least that one critical task during the period of the day when you have the most energy and the fewest distractions.

  5. Get up earlier. Research shows that mornings can make or break your day. Use the mantra “mind over mattress” to motivate yourself to get out of bed to pursue your goals.

  6. Outsource personal chores. Highly productive people are selective about how they expend their energy. They don’t waste time or energy on tasks that others can do. Do a cost/benefit analysis of how you spend your time and see if it’s worth offloading some repetitive tasks so you can focus on what will bring value to your company.

  7. Increase your effectiveness through technology. There’s a plethora of programs to make a small-business owner more effective in increasing productivity. A few popular tools—some of which are free—include Dropbox to store files online; Any Meeting to host a webinar and Hootsuite or Buffer to schedule your social media postings.

  8. Don’t say yes to every request. Most of us have a deep need to be liked. That translates into us saying yes to everything – which is the end of your elite productivity.

  9. Stop multi-tasking. New research confirms that all the distractions invading our lives are rewiring the way our brains work. Be one of the rare-air few who develops the mental and physical discipline to have a mono-maniacal focus on one thing for many hours. It’s all about practice.

  10. Learn from others. Understand that for you to move to your next level of success, you must be in constant student mode. Whether you’re learning from others, attending school, reading books, attending seminars or taking a course, you have to gain access to the information you don’t know so you can get to where you want to be.

Your productivity is your life made visible. Protect your time, your energy, your business, your life.

Our planner is also a fabulous productivity tool to start the new year with a bang! Check it out here!

Do you have a question? Leave me a comment below!

Don’t Try to Be Mindful with Daron Larson at ETTWomen’s Ohio Chapter Think Tank

Although mindfulness has been shown to help decrease stress and increase contentment, many who try it give up frustrated, convinced they’re doing it wrong. By comparing mindfulness practice to physical fitness, Daron helps people distinguish the benefits from the exercises required to experience them.

Daron Larson loves working with people who have tried mindfulness but gave up convinced they’re unable to do it. He encourages people to exercise their natural capacities for focus, self-awareness, resilience, and compassion. Many of his students report decreased distraction, anxiety, and insomnia as a result of exploring the exercises he practices and shares. In addition to personal attention training with individuals, Daron has also worked with groups of business leaders, cancer survivors, medical care givers, and prison inmates — all of whom continue to teach and inspire him in return.

Join Daron Larson at ETTWomen’s June 10th event. RSVP below!


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You Can Succeed in Direct Sales






No problem is insurmountable. With a little courage, teamwork and determination a person can overcome anything. – B. Dodge



No one would pretend that direct sales is easy. If it were, more people would be doing it. It’s commonly said that for every one person who says ‘Yes!’, there are nine who say ‘No!’. If you need to find five people a day to say ‘Yes!’, you will have to talk to fifty people a day.

You need energy, stamina and you need to be able to be as bright and cheerful at six o’ clock at night as you are at eight o’ clock the following morning. If you can’t rise above the trials and tribulations that afflict us all, both in private and in work life, don’t consider a full-time career in direct sales. When I decided to join a direct sales company 18 years ago, what really attracted me was the ability to make my schedule, have qualified people train me and then I was able to find people better than me to build a business with. That was worth all the trials and tribulations I had to go through to make a six figure income.

The truth is building a business isn’t as hard in network marketing as people make it seem. There are systems in place to follow. The challenge is that people over analyze everything and they just don’t follow the system. I had blind faith. I knew I didn’t know anything, so I was extremely coachable. You can be successful in direct sales to if you follow the system that is presented to you and keep these simple things in mind:

  1. Set a schedule and stick to it – Get a planner that allows you to integrate all areas of your life in it so you have everything with you at all times.
  2. Find a mentor – In your company and a coach outside of your company. You need non biased views and ideas in my opinion in order to succeed faster. It is well worth the investment in the long run.
  3. Be a crusader – Own your own products and show potential customers you believe in them.
  4. Stop making excuses – Invest the time you need to and just get it done.
  5. Utilize the direct sales model – Do not reinvent the wheel. Follow the model that has already been proven to work.
  6. Master your craft- Know everything you need to know about your products and service and duplicate your self by training other’s.
  7. Set up a solid referral system – Once you have learned to use it and you are a pro at getting referrals, make sure you teach it to your associates.
  8. Recognize your team –  Big and small accomplishments are important to reward your team for. Everybody has a sign on them that says “make me feel special.”
  9. Have a system for recruiting – Know the numbers. How many people do you have to  invite to look at your opportunity daily to recruit 1 per week?
  10. Follow a marketing plan – Spin multiple plates at all times.  Face to face prospecting, internet marketing, advertising, vendor events and workshops.

When you stop over thinking it and follow the system in place, you can become a master at direct sales!


Our Choices Determine Our Direction

Tough Decisions Ahead Road Sign

I was talking to a good friend about life and choices yesterday. Sometimes you need that kind of a conversation to get clarity on your situation and sometimes adjust your sails and correct the direction your life is headed. There is no mistake that our lives are a product of choices we have made over time. The challenge is that because these choices we make on a daily basis don’t affect our lives immediately, we don’t give it much thought.

The reality is it is those little choices we make every single day along the way that impact our lives the most. I admit I have certainly made poor choices in my lifetime. I still do. When I started to really think about it, I thought about why I made those choices? When we make choices are they for us or are we making them based on what we think we should do? Did we make them because we were afraid of what people would think? Or did we make those choices because at the time we though we had to?

Before you can start to make better choices you have to realize that our choices are entirely our own. We all live with the consequences of our choices. To be happy and move on we can’t regret those choices and we can’t go back to change them. What we can do is learn from those choices and make better ones moving forward. The good news is, it is not where you came from that is important, it is where you are going!

We can all make the choice to change our lives any time we want to. It doesn’t matter if we are younger or older believe it or not.  It was hard for me to swallow that too.

If you are having a difficult time making a difficult choice consult with a friend who understands and might have experienced something similar. Start trusting your instincts a little more often. If it feels bad, like you shouldn’t do it, then don’t! I personally struggle with that daily.

Here are some things to consider:

  1. Accept your situation, but change your outlook.
  2. Accept what happened, but change your path.
  3. Accept the choices you’ve made, make better choices moving forward.
  4. Accept people that have hurt you,  but change the people you hang around with.
  5. Accept and love yourself, but never stop learning or changing.

Some circumstances and choices we could never change, but always remember you can always change what you can simply no longer accept. Sometimes all it takes is a little help from your friends!

Contact Lynette Barbieri with any questions or comments or just to say hi!





Every Entrepreneur Must Master The Art of Selling




If you can’t sell yourself, your ideas, your product or service, you will not stay in business. Selling is an essential skill every entrepreneur must master. Starting from the very first day you launch your business you are selling. The overall success of your business actually depends on your ability to sell. Fortunately there are many books, workshops and sales coaches that can help you. The first book on sales that I read a long time ago was How to Master the Art of Selling by Tom Hopkins.


It’s quite easy to start a business. All you need to do is have a cool idea, a product or service to “sell” that idea and finish it off with a business card, right? Wrong. The problem is that this alone does not guarantee your business success. Growing and sustaining a business that provides income that you can live on is the challenge.

Entrepreneurs need to learn sales skills. You can have the best makeup, jewelry, lotion, or be the best coach there is, but how do you make money? Remember the movie “Field Of Dreams” with Kevin Costner? The line was “If you build it they will come.” Well, ladies, I am here to tell you that if you come up with an awesome simply amazing product, they do not just come! Ever! It takes marketing and selling, both of yourself and of your product or service, to bring in the crowd. Do you see how the word selling is the common thread, here? If you do not sell your product or service you do not make money. It will never sell itself and that just how it goes.

Every entrepreneur needs practical sales skills! They have to learn simple sales tools and strategies in order to grow and succeed in business. I have witnessed many great products developed with an incredible passion fail because there wasn’t enough money coming in to sustain the business.

The good news is that anyone can learn sales skills. Almost nobody is born a great sales person. On the contrary, the case is usually that the most creative people who established the best products have no sales skills at all! Everyone just needs to change their mindset about what selling is. My advice is, take sales classes. Make sure you read books on selling, and yes, even hire a sales coach. I promise, if you do these things and you have a great product or service you believe in, you will see your business not only survive, but grow and thrive!

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Let’s Embrace 2016



It’s that time of year again! As I sat quietly this morning in my sun room sipping my coffee I was vividly remembering my sweet grandmother saying to me when I was a little girl that the new year came faster and faster every year as you get older. I never understood that then. I know now that most of us feel the same way. I feel like I was just cleaning and packing all my holiday decorations and before I knew it I was taking them right out again! Make sure to hire cleaning exec apartment cleaning to clean your home and apartment fully.

I know everyone is talking about resolutions, goals, vision boards etc. and I know we all need to do all those things. I just wanted to talk about personal reflection right now. The end of the year is a natural pause point to think about the prior year and to visualize the new one. It is the time of year that we reflect and reminisce. In one of the training classes I ran this week I talked to my guys about just focusing on a few things right now. We have to ask ourselves some questions because those questions are a catalyst for digging deeper into our personal reflection.

Successes large and small over the last year should be recognized. Any progress is an accomplishment. We need to think about things that didn’t go as expected just as much. If we didn’t make any mistakes we would never learn the lessons we have learned.

These were the only questions I asked and told them to really think about and then write it down:

  1. What was the absolute best thing that happened to you this year?
  2. What was the most disappointing thing that happened to you this year?
  3. What was the biggest waster of time for you last year?
  4. What is the “most” important thing you want to accomplish in 2016?

I think you can get so much out asking yourself these few simple questions. It makes you think about where you have been and what you have accomplished. It also makes you face your failures so you can focus on what lessons you have learned from them and what you will change this year to get a different result.

The “New Year” is a  time for new beginnings and new endeavors. Last year was just a stepping stone to this one.

Have a prosperous, healthy, productive, peaceful, energetic and super happy new year!

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